Dating a persian guy
My problem is that time and again I meet men who think Oh, she’s easy because she is ‘English’ and they then revert back to marrying Persian girls. I hope that many members of our community write in and share their thoughts as well, and I hope that some of them serve to provide evidence contrary to your assumptions.
Obviously internet dating is a minefield of predatory men who are only after one thing. Are we non Persian girls just for dating or bedding? I am, of course, not saying that your assumptions are incorrect.
I was genuinely shocked, and tried to play it off like I wasn’t such an ignorant American thinking that Persian women were just bundled up virginal victims. While the laws in Iran are extremely stringent for woman, to think of them merely as victims of their government robs them of their agency.
The women are in charge.” “Yeah, modern men are like that right now.
You’re on a conservative trip and you expect her to cover-up.
Stop those outfit sanctions; you’re not being protective, you’re being a hypocrite.
6) She was honest to you about her past relationships from the start, yet the closer you get, the more annoyed, jealous and paranoid you start to become with her history.
They were starting to catch on to my astonishment and were all smiling. Instantly the woman’s finger was pointing in the air: “I have something to say about this! Like compared to Turkish guys, who are rough and they’re cheaters and they’re hard core—which is why I like them—[she winked] Persian men are like really nice and soft.
“How do they do that, if there’s no bars —“ I started to ask. You can get anything you want.” The female cousin mused: “Iranians are very influenced by American culture. Most educated families allow their children to date.” Thinking of the next thing I took for granted about the country, I asked how Persian men treat their wives.
I would be interested in your thoughts as I am getting quite disheartened at the attitudes. I think, very unfortunately, that there are some cultural stereotypes (in both directions! So good, let’s get these all out in the open so that we can talk about them.
I, too, have heard many times from Iranian men (or men from any of the middle-eastern cultures for that matter) that they are happy to date American or non-Iranian women, but that they would never marry one.